Stay-at-Home Moms Going Back to Work
You have two grade-school aged children at home, and you have loved being able to be a stay-at-home mom for them. With pressures from the current economy, however, you now need to re-enter the workforce. How do you address your feelings of guilt for leaving your children while you go to work? How do you ease your family’s transition?
- A parent’s job is to do what is in the best interests of the children. If you remain a stay-at-home mom, your children will continue to enjoy the love, attention, and bonding with you, but if they lose food, shelter, and other essentials due to lack of funds, what has been gained? The point: returning to work to help your family stay afloat in the current economy can be consistent with putting your children’s interests first. Further, when you find enjoyment in your work, that positive perspective will be brought home and shared with your children. Children who grow up with positive, empowered parents are more likely to prosper than children who grow up without that advantage. For these and many other reasons, acknowledge the guilt associated with your returning to work, and then think through the logic of the circumstances at hand and give yourself permission to release your guilt.
- Involve your family in your return-to-work process. By giving your spouse and children voice in the process, they will be less likely to feel negative emotions due to their perception that the circumstances are outside their control.
- Arrange for quality childcare. We at Care4hire.com offer a large database of available, high-quality babysitters who can pick your children up from school, take them home, and attend to them in the comfort of their own home until you return home each weekday. We can provide you with all the information you need to interview, screen, hire, and employ a babysitter that is right for your family.
- Develop supplemental methods of communicating with your family. A large calendar posted in your kitchen may keep the entire family informed about everyone’s activities for the month. A daily journal can be used for communication between parents, the babysitter, and the children. Some parents regularly text or e-mail their babysitters and children to maintain the flow of information.
- Emphasize the benefits that each of your family members will experience by your returning to work. For example, getting to stay in your current home, continuing to have access to nutritious and balanced meals, and perhaps even getting to do something fun as a family that you wouldn’t have been able to do without income from your new job.
- Ensure that the time that you have with your family is quality time. Routine tasks such as ensuring that the children’s chores and homework are done can be delegated to the babysitter. Your family time can then be focused on those bonding tell-me-all-about-your-day moments, the weekend picnics in the park, the story times at bedtime, and all the wonderful opportunities to nurture your relationship with your children.
Ultimately, this transition, like all transitions, is a work in progress. Be patient with yourself as you and your family go through the learning curve on this transition. By following the tips above, it will get easier as you and your family settle into a new routine