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Do Working Moms Spoil Their Kids?

Do working moms in two income families spoil their kids more than stay-at-home moms whose spouses or partners financially support the family?   If so, what is the reason for this spoiling?

Do working moms in two income families spoil their kids more than stay-at-home moms whose spouses or partners financially support the family?  Answer:  it depends.  It would certainly appear (anecdotally) that working moms inadvertently engage in spoiling behaviors more than stay-at-home moms do, but whether those kids actually become spoiled is determined more by the kids themselves.  Specifically, the kids’ personalities will determine how they respond to any given situation, the parental lavishing of attention and gifts among them.

Why do working moms tend to engage in spoiling behaviors more than stay-at-home moms?  There appears to be a number of reasons for this phenomenon.  Mom guilt and the concomitant mom-seeking-kids’-approval is primary.  Additionally, working moms tend to view time with their kids as non-routine and worthy of celebration.  They are less inclined to say “no” to their kids because they wish to make the best of their limited time with their kids.  Finally, families with two parents earning an income typically have more disposable income than families with one income; therefore, the two-income families can afford to provide their kids with more luxury gifts.

In the end, the question parents should ask themselves is not are they engaging in spoiling behaviors but are the kids experiencing a sense of entitlement to those spoiling behaviors.  If the kids have a sense of entitlement, then parental spoiling behavior needs to be scaled back to bring kids’ expectations in line.

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