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New Year’s Resolutions for Kids

For many of us, the New Year ushers in an opportunity to do something different, something more, something better.  It’s seen as a whole new opportunity to change the way you impact the world.  How can you help your kids, embrace New Year’s resolutions in the most constructive manner?

1. Discuss with your kids the opportunities that we have each day to create our own destinies. New Year’s Eve is merely a poster child for an opportunity that exists for us every day.

2. Because we set annual goals (aka resolutions) on New Year’s Eve, discuss what your kids would like to do or become in their upcoming year. Let your kids set their own resolutions, but help set the parameters for those resolutions. Resolutions should be healthy, constructive goals that are intended to improve the life of the person making the resolution or the life/lives of one or more others. You may wish to share your new year’s resolutions with your kids so that they can have examples of the kinds of resolutions that are within the parameters. If Janie wants to have “eat chocolate every day” as her new year’s resolution, redirect her away from such a resolution as it is unhealthy and does not focus on something substantial, as most resolutions should. For kids who are stymied by the task of creating a resolution, you may ask probing questions. Would they like to get along better with their siblings? Would they like to get straight A’s in school? Would they like to make a difference in the life of a neighborhood family that is going through a difficult period? Would they like to spend more time with Grandma, who is quite ill?

3. Before a resolution is “set in stone”, discuss ways to carry out the resolution. For example, what will your kids do to get along better, get better grades, help out the neighbors, or spend more time with Grandma? Resolutions that lack specifics are often defaulted on; it’s best to have specific goals so that your kids can take steps regularly to ensure that they are fulfilling their resolutions.

4. Once resolutions are set, write them down. Each of your kids could have a piece of poster board on which they could write their resolutions. They could then put their resolutions on their bedroom walls.

5. Further, your kids can keep a journal that tracks their progress in fulfilling their resolutions. For example, if the resolution is to spend more time with Grandma, and the specifics are to spend at least one hour a week with Grandma doing such things as playing board games or chatting, then a weekly journal of time spent, important things discussed, lessons learned, and emotions experienced might prove useful. (Hint: save these journals, as they will be treasures for your kids to look back on when they are grown.)

6. At the end of the year, visit with each of your kids privately. Discuss their closing year’s resolutions. How did they do? Did they fulfill their resolutions? What went well? What were their challenges? What do they think/how are they feeling about their resolutions?

 By following these six simple steps, you can help your kids form healthy, constructive New Year’s resolutions.  For more helpful tips, continue to visit Care4hire.com.

1 comment to New Year’s Resolutions for Kids

  • Sue

    I love the idea of helping children set some simple goals that are specific at New Year. I used to do this when I was a Deputy Head teacher. I used to make a large bullseye display in my class room and I used to get my children to write their goals on an arrow that we moved every week closer to their goal or bullseye.
    I also do the same with parents now in my role as a Parent Coach.
    Great post !

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