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100 Tips for Nannies and Families

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Fostering an Attitude of Gratitude

You want your kids to experience gratitude for all that they have in life: for their families and friends, for the tangible and intangible gifts they have been given, for the lives they have the opportunity to lead.  How can you inspire your kids to have this attitude of gratitude?

  • Lead by example. Tell your kids daily how grateful you are for them, your spouse, your job, and the many other blessings in your life.
  • Ask your kids frequently what they are grateful for.
  • Point out the blessings that are often overlooked (i.e., health, financial security, etc.).
  • Spend time, as a family, attending to those in need. Nothing makes us more aware of our blessings than helping out those who don’t have all the things we may take for granted on a day-to-day basis. (Note: this tip also fosters a sense of empathy and community as well.)
  • Make donating your family’s time and money to those less fortunate a part of your family’s culture. Have your kids donate a certain amount of their allowance, at least periodically, to the charity of their choice. Let your kids choose where to volunteer the family’s services from time to time (i.e., serving Thanksgiving dinner at the homeless shelter or sorting donations for a local non-profit organization).
  • Teach your kids to write relationship-enhancing thank-you notes. That is to say that not only should thank-you notes be written consistently, but they should be personal, not generic (i.e., a thank-you note that could have been written to anyone for a gift that is unspecified). (Note: if your kids are pre-schoolers and thus too young to write thank-you notes, you can write the notes on behalf of your kids, jointly deciding what should be written, and then having your kids sign the note as best they can.)
  • Teach your kids how to respond when receiving a gift that is not to their liking. Yes, they may feel disappointed to receive the pea green polyester pants. However, they can still feel gratitude that the gift giver felt bonded enough with them to buy them a gift at all. (Note: depending on their relationship with the gift giver, you may teach your kids how to politely express gratitude for the giving of the gift while still asking if the gift giver has the receipt for the gift so that it can be exchanged for some other item.)
  • Never give your kids disproportionately generous gifts, or at least do so sparingly. Kids who are consistently given extremely expensive gifts may develop a sense of entitlement and lose perspective on the value of money, especially as that value correlates to the value of human relationships.

By following these tips, you can help your kids develop an attitude of gratitude.   For more useful information, continue to visit Care4hire.com.

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